Why have an affair?

'Not tonight is so common a response among married women as to be considered almost normal' (Saturday Star 'The death of Libido'-September 16, 2000)

Interestingly however this does not apply to women engaged in an affair. Why not? There are many reasons but often once women have successfully attracted the man of their choice they relax, become complacent and move on to other things such as their career, raising children, women friends and so on. Meanwhile their male partners remain as interested in the sexual aspect of the relationship as they were when courting and don't understand the sudden change. Some of these men have just discovered the wonders of Viagra to boot!

What about single women?

Statistics show they are nearly twice as likely to admit a need for sex than married women are. In fact they will initiate sex more, be more adventurous, flirtatious and do everything possible to retain their physical desirability. They also understand the importance of sex to their male partners and do not take this aspect of the relationship for granted.

The opposite is true as well-married men often take their wives for granted and are no longer the charming romantics that they once were. They too may become less concerned about their appearance and even personal hygiene habits become less rigorous, for example, men may stop shaving over weekends or, forget to brush their teeth before going to bed -or other unmentionables!

But put the same married man with a new attractive partner and he miraculously changes back into the 'charming prince' he once was. And put the same married woman who apparently was no longer interested in sex at all with a new attractive and admiring partner and-you guessed it-she becomes the erotic and playful seductress all over again!