Some anecdotes

Peter (mid 50's; married)

"Despite being married, I felt very lonely. I needed some fun and excitement in my life. My wife didn't do it for me any longer. She became less attractive to me, and after about 30 years together, boredom does tend to set in. I needed something else. Variety is after all the spice of life. I met Cherie and each time I need to meet someone, she gives me the number and we arrange to meet discreetly. It's not the sort of thing that I do every week, once every three weeks or so is sufficient. What would happen if were caught? I haven't really thought about it. I wouldn't know how to react. In my own fashion, I do still love my wife, but I need something more, which she can't give me."

Carol (mid 20s; single, involved with married men)

"Look, you meet people all the time. Some of them lie to you and are not married anyway. This way the person is screened and I feel much safer I've had a dangerous experience once and I decided to take a safer route. If the man is married, it is his prerogative to do what he chooses with his life. I merely meet the person and enjoy their company for that evening. I am not looking for a committed relationship right now, and the arrangement suits my needs. What would I do if his partner found out? When the situation arises, I'll deal with it. This is something I haven't considered yet."

Sally (late 30s; married)

For some women, the need for excitement is just as strong as some men's desire. One such woman is Sally, in her late 30's, who craves adventure. " There is absolutely nothing lacking in my marriage. I love my husband and he takes care of all my psychological and sexual needs. "I just needed something different," Sally explains.